In this article I'll be sharing my perspective on why some friends, family, coworkers, followers, etc. might be behaving differently around you and why it might be best, for your own wellbeing, to let yourselves grow apart.
If you are a person who is personally growing a lot, there may be someone in your life who is starting to notice this about you. Over time, you may notice that they are starting to treat you differently, maybe by putting a little more distance in between the two of you.
I think this is because they feel like you are growing faster than them or maybe just in different ways than them.
They start to see how strong you are and that you are doing big things... things perhaps they feel like they could never do, or maybe they just don't want to do.
They may feel fearful that you are going to get "so big" that you end up leaving them as a friend, so they choose to not let themselves get too close to you as a way to protect themselves. If they don't get too close, they won't form such a tight bond, which means they will have a much lesser chance of getting hurt (or at least they won't get hurt at such a deep level).
To protect themselves from getting hurt, they choose to just keep things "light" because that feels more "safe" to them.
Limiting Beliefs Can Get the Best of Us
I believe this stems from an insecurity that they have about themselves... a certain limiting belief. This doesn't mean they are an "insecure" person, it just means they have some kind of programming within them that is making them feel insecure about this particular thing.
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Because of this, we can't judge or shame them. Nor should we allow ourselves to feel angry, upset or hurt for too long about this. We just have to realize that they are on their own journey and still have some healing work to do.
We cannot force them to do this healing work if they are not ready to do it, or if they can't see this aspect about themselves (in my opinion, this just means they are living in a state of denial). We just have to come to an understanding of why they are behaving that way and then just keep moving forward with our own lives after that.
Some people aren't ready to grow and they truly don't have to if they don't want to.
They are completely allowed to stay in their safe bubble and they are completely allowed to do that without judgment or shame from us.
The truth is, you and this person just grew apart and maybe it is time to put more distance between the two of you.
Holding Space for Those We Love
We just need to hold a loving space for the people we love. Who knows, they may grow over time and end up coming back around someday, or they may continue to stay where they are at for the rest of their lives.
People are allowed to do whatever they choose to in life because of this thing called "free will."
If we want people to respect our free will, then we simply have to do the same for them.
I should also say that we are also allowed to grow without judgment or shame from them... but we should expect to receive those things from them, as that is usually a sign of someone who is just a little further behind on their personal development.
The good news is, as we grow, we'll be better able to let those negative energies bounce right off of us without doing any kind of harm to our inner world.
This is because when we heal ourselves we feel much more secure with ourselves.
I Want to Hear From You!
What are your thoughts about this? Are you someone who has been growing a lot and lost friends in the process? Feel free to comment below and let me know about your experiences with this!
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