I have always been one to follow my heart and ultimately choose love over fear and freedom over depending on others. I would rather be unpredictable than predictable any day, because if people are always able to predict your next move, then you are more likely to be controlled and taken advantage of by others.
There are so many people in the world who are allowing this to happen to them... it's like they don't even realize they are sovereign beings who have every right to their own personal freedom and destiny.
Due to my own personal experiences and inner reflections, I feel this is mainly due to people not believing in themselves.
This limiting belief was the root of most of my sufferings in life and was the result of years and years of subconscious programming, from this lifetime as well as past lifetimes. When we choose to accept the [often distorted] beliefs of society over what is actually true for us, we get programmed, and when we are programmed, we are allowing ourselves to be controlled to a certain level.
When we cannot see our own worth and are not willing to fully think for ourselves, trust in ourselves, or stand up for ourselves, then we are ultimately choosing to keep ourselves locked in a cage full of limitations.
We are each responsible for our own individual lives and the actions we choose to take (or not take). If we don't take any action to change our situation because of fear, doubt, etc. then does it really make any sense at all to continue playing victim to certain situations or whining and complaining about what others have done or are doing to us?
If it's still happening to us, it's because we are allowing it to happen on some level.
Complaining is a big part of what keeps us stuck in these less-than-ideal cycles, but if we can turn inward to find the root belief that is causing us to continue putting up with whatever it is we are complaining about, then THAT is the key to change.
Once we are aware of the root belief, we can then create an opportunity to shift into a more ideal belief. When we take a new action based on this new belief and continue to do so each time this particular thing comes up, we can then begin to program a new belief system into our subconscious and ultimately begin manifesting new, positive outcomes.