I no longer just listen to people’s words, it’s their actions that show me more of what I need to know.
If these two things are not in alignment with each other, then I have to do what’s best for both of us by setting a firm boundary (self-love for me and tough-love for them.)
I’ve learned that people who don’t like being corrected or being called out on their bullshit will get angry at this and will often project this anger back at me in some way.
This isn’t really fair to me but TO BE FAIR, and to bring a new perspective into this, I can SEE it could also be an aspect of myself that I need to take a look at and change.
I can ask myself, “Do I get angry at others when they call me out on something?”
When I change this within myself, my outer world will reflect this as well. 😉 As within, so without.
To change this, I can choose in that moment to not let myself get wrapped up in the chaotic emotional storm of the whole thing, and instead just place myself in the “eye of the storm.”
This allows my energy to balance and come from a neutral place, which helps me recognize the projection for what it is without taking on the distortion of the lower energies. I can then see that there’s no reason for me to take their anger towards me personally which in turn helps me RESPOND to them instead of REACT (which can set off more triggers and downward spirals into black holes.)
Getting defensive and angry just means the other person isn’t ready to take a look at this aspect of themselves and instead are trying to project their anger onto me to try and make me look like the “bad guy” so they don’t have to take responsibility or hold themselves accountable.
This means they can’t yet SEE this aspect of themselves and are showing me that they are not ready to change at this moment in time. And that’s okay. They can change when they are ready but I can also choose to not put up with their bullshit by removing myself and not giving them any more of my energy.
The best part is when I give someone ZERO energy in response to their projection, it bounces off of me and right back at them (like a mirror,) which FORCES them to deal with their own bullshit.
This one way to hold your power and teach others how to CHECK THEMSELVES without having to spend a lot of energy trying to explain something to them they literally can’t see yet. ❤️